Often times in life, people hurt us physically, mentally, and emotionally. When that occurs we have a strong desire to take some kind of action that harms them as much or more than they harmed us so they can understand how they hurt us. This is a normal thought to have.
We don't need to get revenge on those that harm us because the same thought process they used to hurt us will continue to negatively impact their lives in the future. The same thought pattern the individual used to harm us is engrained in their mind and will continue harming themselves in the future until they change their way of thinking. For example, if someone throws a rock at your house and breaks a window and you cannot determine who did it so they can be legally punished, rest assured knowing that the mental process they used to determine that it was acceptable to throw a rock through your window will continue to negatively impact their life in the future. They will continue to create enemies, they will continue to live in fear that their actions will catch up to them, and they will face some form of legal or societal punishment once they are caught. If, perhaps, after having broken your window they felt remorse and changed their ways, take satisfaction in the idea that, for the cost of replacing a window, you inadvertently taught a stranger a very valuable lesson and helped improve their life.
We should have compassion for those that hurt us because it very well could be that their decision to harm us is an expression of pain, suffering, or flawed perceptions that they encountered in the past. Let's consider a situation where an individual who is married cheats on their spouse. It could be that when they were younger they suffered abandonment or abuse from a parent or adult that caused them to believe intimate relationships are meant to be destroyed, and by cheating they are acting out the negative, self-defeating thought processes they learned through the unfortunate events they had to experience. We should feel compassion for their pain and not take their actions so personally.
By: Zach Good
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